From Chaos to Clarity: How Saying “Ah Feck It” Can Lead to the Best Decisions

The Power of the “Ah Feck It” – When Spontaneity Shapes Better Homes (and Better Lives)

There’s a phrase I use as a parent—one I probably shouldn’t write in a blog but here we are. It’s called the “Ah feck it”. Sometimes it’s a “fuck it” if I’m being honest. It’s the moment where logic takes a backseat, the budget spreadsheet is ignored, and spontaneity grabs the steering wheel.

This week, I had one of those moments. Out of nowhere I decided: “Let’s go to London.” No weeks of planning. No agonising over flight prices or debating if it’s sensible. Just: “Ah feck it. We can afford it. We’re going.”

Because sometimes, the memory is more valuable than the money.

Brilliantly Chaotic London

Now, myself and my husband Alan have been to London before—plenty of times. But this was our kids’ first trip. And let me tell you, it was a brilliantly chaotic mess of memories.

• Bonnie met Taylor Swift (well… the wax version in Madame Tussauds, but try telling her that wasn’t the real deal).
• Cooper finally got to try a Gregg’s sausage roll, which he’s been obsessing over since watching some YouTuber mention it.
• And Ellis? He just wanted to see Big Ben and get a tiny statue of it. Which he did. He now carries it around like a pocket watch, constantly checking the time as if it’s his little souvenir of authority.

Meeting Tay Tay

Cooper And Gregg’s

When Ellis Met Big Ben

We did the Tube for the first time—like Paddington Bear. Pure magic seeing the real-life version of something they’ve only ever seen in movies. Well, magical for some of us.

Bonnie hated the Tube. Absolutely terrified. Between the crowds, the noise, and the whole underground concept, it was sensory overload. To be fair, she had a point—especially when the doors snapped shut on my bag and Alan (plus a very helpful stranger) had to prise them back open while I hung on like a cartoon character. Chaos.

We did the London Eye. The kids were expecting roller coaster vibes. Instead: “Why is it going so slow?!” we got asked 74 times. Honestly, I think they were more impressed with the souvenir shop than the skyline view.

Shrek’s Adventure was a huge hit. Our kids threw themselves into it—chatting with the actors, laughing out loud, and proudly receiving their magical silver tooth from Donkey to pass on to the fortune teller. Pure joy.

Madame Tussauds, on the other hand, had a little twist—namely the horror section. Let’s just say there were screams, tears, and one very clear scapegoat: me. Because obviously, it’s always Mum’s fault. Daddy escapes like a magician every time!

Oh, and just to top it all off, the night before our flight we realised… our youngest’s passport was out of date. Yep. Classic. That’s a whole other newsletter in itself, but let’s just say the preparation phase could use some work!

So, why am I telling you all this?

Because that “Ah feck it” spirit—the one that got us to London—It might sound mad, is the same one I use in my work as Ireland’s #1 spatial interior designer—just in a more structured way.

You see, as a business owner, I’ve spent years being cautious. Fearful. I’d hold onto money in my business like it was oxygen, terrified it wouldn’t come back. I’d spend more time analysing than acting. But life has shown me something different. The money comes back. But the time, the memories, the magic? That’s a one-time offer.

And over time, I’ve realised this: when you build a process that is anchored in honesty, clarity, and creativity—you can afford the occasional “Ah feck it.”

And it’s the same for your home.

Fear Holds Us Back. Clarity Moves Us Forward.

I work with clients who are holding back—afraid to move forward when their home doesn’t work for them anymore. They worry about getting it wrong. About spending money and regretting it. About not doing “enough.” My clients often arrive overwhelmed, fearful, and stuck in “what if” mode.

“What if we go over budget?”
“What if we regret not doing the extension?”
“What if this design doesn’t give us everything we think we want?”

They’re waiting for absolute certainty. But here’s what I’ve learned: when you design based on what your life actually looks like, not the fantasy Pinterest version—you create something that fits. Something that lasts.

That’s why I say: “Let’s pause. Take a breath. What would you do if you weren’t afraid of getting it wrong?”

I help people get clear, take control, and say, “Ah feck it—let’s do what feels right.”

What if you didn’t need the extension? What if we reconfigured your home and gave you back control? What if you didn’t need more square footage, just a better way of using what you already have?

No unnecessary extensions. No over-complication. Just smart, joyful reconfigurations that give you the kind of home where the best moments unfold naturally.

Like screaming in a wax museum. Or eating sausage rolls in the middle of a crowd Leicester Square while your siblings eat a McDonald’s. Or checking the time on a plastic Big Ben every five minutes.

Sometimes all it takes is an “Ah feck it” moment to get clear on what really matters.

If you’re standing at a crossroads with your renovation, wondering whether to wait or act… maybe this is your sign. Maybe this is your “Ah feck it” moment.

My clients often say, “You helped me make the brave decision I was too afraid to admit I wanted.”  They come out the other side thinking: “Feck it, we should have done this years ago.”

If you’ve been stuck overthinking your home layout or wondering if an extension is the answer, maybe it’s time to pause… and get the clarity you need.

When you understand what’s possible within your space—and your budget—you can move forward with confidence, not fear. You can take a leap, because you know the ground beneath you is solid.

If that resonates, maybe it’s time we talked.

👉 Ready for your own “Ah feck it” moment? Take the first step towards a home you love Click Here to schedule your Clarity Call with Eleanor and let’s explore what’s actually right for your home and your family.